Marriage is the ultimate bond made by two people in love. It is exclusive, and each partner should be committed to the other. If one partner chooses to have sex, whilst married, to another, it is considered adultery. Not only is adultery considered bad in the eyes of Jesus and the church, but it is frowned upon by society as well.
When a person commits adultery, he or she is breaking their marriage vows and one of the commandments of the church.
In a lot of cases adultery can lead to marital breakdown, as it damages the relationship, as one partner does not trust the other anymore.
So for this case of sex outside of marriage I have agreed with the statement, sex is wrong outside of marriage, if you are already married to someone else.
Casual sex or ‘Unmarried sex’
Also when talking about the word sex, it does not just have one definition. The act of sex can be described in many ways, such as “making love”, “sex”, or “sleeping with someone.” I believe that making love is the sex between two people in love and who are expressing their love for each other in a physical way. The Catholic Church teaches that making love is more than just sharing in the act of sex, it is an intimate act of giving a person as a whole to another person, and visa versa.
Also the sex between a married couple is a sign of new life, where children can be produced from the love making.
Sleeping with someone in a “one night stand” is when a two people have sexual intercourse, with the idea of lust, or little or no love connected with the act. The majority of people who have this sex have little or no intimacy, or if they do, it tends not to provoke a serious loving relationship, after the sex has taken place.
Sex, as expressed here, I considered as the act of casual sex (sleeping around), or which is raw or animal like, expressing no emotion whatsoever, apart from pleasure. Where sex should be an act of love, here the act of pleasure dominates the thought over the act of love.
In society today, “sex”, as described above, is presented by the media as a glamorous gift we are given that we must share, and that “sex is power,” gained by having sex with as many partners as possible.
Where in this assumption, of people today, does it show marriage or at least a relationship? Where does it show the risks of this glamorous living? The “risks” being the risks of health, as in contracting a STD and passing it on without realising. Or the risk of gaining a reputation and lack of self respect. Although we are taught it’s not our place to judge anyone else’s business.
Also it does not mention the responsibility that sex brings with it. With every act of (unprotected) sex there is the chance of reproducing, whether planned or otherwise. Therefore, if the couple are not involved in a relationship together, and the female becomes pregnant, there is either the option of abortion to get rid of the child and responsibility (which is against the teaching of the Catholic Church) or becoming a single mother.
When a couple are in a relationship and have been for a very long time, an idea would be to live together. This is a big step of commitment which either occurs as or before a couple are married. The issue of proving your love physically to your partner is eventually going to become an issue while living together.
It is statistically proven that couples who live together before marriage, there is a higher divorce rate among these couples. This could be because that couple have spent a lot of time together over a long period of time, they may have spent too much time together, and need a break from each other for a while.
Some people may say the if a couple are ready for sex, they should be ready for marriage. Why don’t they just get married and then have sex? But in some cases this may be hard as, if neither partner feel ready for a life long commitment, or just may be comfortable as the are (living together), the idea of doing something they are not prepared for, just to prove their love to each other, would be a pointless move, as they already have the physical bond there that they would have as a married couple.
This is why a lot of people decide to have sex before marriage, as waiting a long time before they feel ready for marriage, can be frustrating and if the couple are really in love, they may believe that they do not need a marriage to prove their love to each other.
Also being living with a person who loves you and you love them, it is obvious that the couple will get to know each other better as they spend a lot more time together, than they would if the lived separately. This would provoke feelings between them of a sexual nature, and it is only human nature for the attraction for sex to show in a time like this.
Also when a couple are in love, and they are extremely happy, and “on a high” because of the love they share, their morals may go out the window, as they want to enjoy this happy time together, so the couple may rush into things, not realising the consequences of their actions.
Also living together could make a couple realise they are not right for each other, and they didn’t know their partner as well as the thought. Therefore, if that couple rushed straight into a marriage without living together previously, they would not have spotted this problem until their only option to be happy would be to divorce.
On one hand, sex outside of marriage when it is the act of adultery, I agree with the statement, as it its very wrong to do this for many reasons including it is breaking the commandments and vows set by marriage.
Also casual sex I think is wrong personally. As if you are not in love, you should not experience the act of love, as the sex would be empty and have no intimacy.
On the other hand, and I agree with, sex is something that can or cannot have feeling attached to it, but both can be enjoyable all the same. But to have sex while in love and in a positive relationship, it is better as you are merely not having sex, but proving your love to your loved one. Living together in the hope to one day be married, there is no problem making love, as the couple have made a commitment to each other and are serious about their love.