Countertransference occurs when a therapist develops his or her feelings toward a client. It can be very challenging if not dealt wisely. Some therapist deals with this quite naturally and with honesty. Some therapist may never mention this to their client, but in either case, therapist should pay attention to their feelings of Countertransference and should seek peer review and supervisory guidance if needed. Rather than eliminating countertransference altogether, the goal is to use those feelings productively rather than harmfully. Identifying one form of countertransference
To understand a countertransference, we have to understand transference first. When we project onto the therapist, for example we react to them as if they were someone from out past. That’s transference. We transferred those feelings from the initial experience and person onto the present experience and person. If a therapist reacts to the patient the same way, it is countertransference. If therapist find himself feeling anger because the patient is being demeaning and that anger is coming from the therapist’s past experience of his parent being demeaning, then that is countertransference.
I could and have been in this situation before. As a direct support professional I assist people with mentally challenged. There are clients who I worked for were diagnosed with autism and they tend to have aggression. I could relate a same feelings being transferred as if I could see my previous client as relatively identical as this current client. When he used to scream and when my current client scream is almost very identical. The way how I deal with this is to keep my mind separated from this and think it like a professional manner instead of being so emotional.
Sometimes it is hard to overcome these situations but we must not let these feelings get to us. Another example I could think of is my deceased friend. I could see my best friend in my client. I could start to have the flash backs of all the good times I had spent with my best friend. This would be really hard to deal knowing I could struggle with the emotional feelings and be overjoyed at the same time. I cannot terminate the session because I have to see through this situation in an ethical manner. I would encourage myself and that could interfere with the therapy I am trying to give this individual.
There are plenty of ways to deal with this problem but I would try to deal with this in a most ethical manner. I should also consider multiple other options. If I know I am not providing any help to the session. I would talk to my client and refer him to a different counselor but would have to be the last solution. I would always keep enough distance and only meet him during session hours. I will not give out my personal number. I am setting the boundary for me to not be encouraged or be overwhelmed of this feeling.
In conclusion, I discussed two scenarios with countertransference and ways how I would deal with that. The first one being an experience of my own with my client, and the second one could be with my deceased friend. Both could lead to a problems in my personal lives and eventually get burnout from the profession. It could always be so challenging if it is not handled the right way. It could create conflict between the client and the therapist. So we as a counselor should take the initiative right away before it reaches at a different level.