In this essay I will describe the importance of the biblical teachings of marriage and family life. Christian teachings state five important principles on Christian marriage. Marriage is a sacrament based on love which should fruitful, exclusive and permanent. The bible also teaches that family life should be respectful. Marriage is a sacrament which means that it is a gift from God and through it we experience God.
It is a sign of God’s love for us and shows that through it we are in total union with God. In Mark 10:6 its states ‘‘God made them male and female’’ and therefore from the very beginning man and woman where meant to be united as one. The sacrament in marriage is a bond that cannot be broken and it brings us closer to God. Christian marriage is based on love. This is expressed through friendship, companionship and sexual love. If a marriage has no love in it then it doesn’t make any sense.
We are told in 1 John 4:7 ‘‘Let us love one another, because love comes from God’’ this means having a loving relationship is a sign of God’s love for us and that God wants people to love one another, we are told a similar message in Ephesians 5:25 ‘‘Husbands love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave his life for it. ’’ It is comparing Christ’s love for the church with a husband and wife’s love therefore saying a husband should be prepared to die for his wife as Christ done for the church.
Also in Ephesians 5:32 it says ‘‘Every husband must love his wife as himself, and every wife must respect her husband’’ this means a relationship between man and wife should be equal both full of love for one another. For marriage to succeed, love is needed however love can be shown in other forms. We are told in 1 Corinthians 7:14 where St Paul wrote ‘‘Do not deny yourselves to each other unless you first agree to do so’’ From this verse we are told that a married couple should be open to a sexual relationship which love is part of.
Not only should marriage be based on love but should also be permanent meaning that there should be no divorce or remarriage. In 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 it clearly states that ‘‘A wife must not leave her husband and a husband must not divorce his wife. ’’ In Mathew 19:6 it tells us that ‘‘No human being must then separate what God has joined together. ’’ This explains that a husband and wife become one person in marriage and so cannot be divided. God has joined these human beings as one to last forever.
This is also what is meant in Mark 10:6 ‘‘A man will leave his father and mother and unite with his wife and the two will become one. ’’ In Mathew 5:31 Jesus teaches that if a couple is divorced and marry again they are committing adultery as they are breaking the principle that a marriage must be permanent. Another key teaching is that marriage should be exclusive meaning that both husband and wife must remain faithful in their relationship and that it is only between them and no other except God.
Exodus 20:14 in the Ten Commandments it says ‘‘Do not commit adultery’’ which means that neither husband nor wife should have a sexual relationship with anyone other than each other. In Mathew 5:27 Jesus explains that if anyone looks upon another man or woman and want to ‘‘possess’’ them is ‘‘guilty of committing adultery’’ with them in their heart, meaning that adultery can be committed mentally and not just physically. Overall you must be faithful and trustworthy in a marriage to have an exclusive one. Finally a marriage has to be fruitful.
God intended for humans to have many children as it states in Genesis 1:27-28 ‘‘Have many children, so that your descendants will live all over the earth and bring it under their control. ’’ God wants us to do his will and gives an understanding that a married couple should have many children. Both should be ready to have children and so a marriage should be fruitful between man and wife. Christian teachings on family life have four important principles which are respect, mutual respect, religious formation and responsibility.
Christians believe family life is a relationship which involves God. Having respect is an important principle as in Exodus 20:12 it says ‘‘Respect your mother and father’’ however it states in Colossians 3:21 ‘‘Parents, do not irritate your children, or they will become discouraged. ’’ This means that their must also be respect from parents towards their children and that they should help them with everyday life. Parents should not nag their children constantly this is apparent in Ephesians 6:4 ‘’Parents do not treat your children in such a way as to make them angry. ’ Instead parents and children should respect each other In Ephesians 6:4 it also states for parents to bring up their children in the Christian faith ‘‘Bring them up with Christian discipline and instruction. ’’
Parents must teach their children how to be a good Christian and teach them the importance of Christian life such as faith, honesty, loyalty and trust. Another teaching is that as Christians we must take care of our relatives and help them when in need this is stated in 1 Timothy 5:8 ‘‘Take care of your relatives. ’ This means we are responsible for our relatives and must take look after them. In conclusion I have decided that Christian teachings on marriage and family life are both very important and should be followed by all Christians. Family life must include respect, responsibility and religious formation while a marriage must be fruitful, loving, permanent, exclusive and a sacrament for the marriage to truly work and be a true union in the presence of God.